In my days of working for my Mom. I've heard young ladies talk about what kind of ideal man that they wanted. Usually it would be the tall, light eyes, (black girls say) light skin with "Good Hair", a chiseled body,and nice smile. Personality maybe funny and a man that believes in God. I remember when I was a certain age , there were certain type of guys that I liked, and it usually was the biracial "you don't know what they are" type.
As I realized as time when on that I was putting to much emphasis on what a man looks like then I did on personality and integrity, which is never good. If that man is evil, contentious, and is not appreciating you. Then you find out how ugly he can be right away. Fine men and woman are even better looking with they have a heart.
Women shouldn't be interest in just the physical, because when that relationship is based on the physical, you both will have emotional issues. I've heard so much times that they wanted to have babies with a certain person or race is that they van have "pretty babies" or a certain looking baby. Usually that person is a single parent and later on regrets or resents that other person.
People we need to get smart on who we want to be in our lives. Ladies, I know about the good looking charming guy that sweeps you off your feet at first. Same with men! Woman can impress you guys as well, a woman can be beautiful, sweet, strong, loving, and can make a man feel like a King!!!! When you get to know them it's a different story. Watch and Observe when you are dating that individual (Singles) Do not rush into anything, take is slow.
Remember you don't have to have a "must have" of your type to be happy. Of course God will give you the desires of your heart. The mental, emotional, and spiritual out last than just the physical. Find a person that you can laugh with, the person that get's you, the person that knows your flaws and that can work with or around them. In another case pray that they will go away.
Usually people that have that "pretty baby" mind set, it usually they don't like they look themselves. You are a wonderful, beautiful, handsome and brilliant human being. Do let other's say that you aren't all that cause you are. Learn to love yourselves for who you are. You're some wonderful that God said he only need one of you, cause the world ain't ready for another one. LOL! It's True!!!! Your baby will be beautiful no matter what!
Tuesday, February 15, 2011
Wednesday, February 2, 2011
Fitness: Health? or Vain?
Why do people work out? Some say they work out for health reasons. Some say they work out so they can stay or get to a certain size. Woman say they want to look great in a skimpy swimsuit, to attract men and have their friends jealous because they have all the attention.
Why do we feel the need to work out? Maybe it’s because of the media that tells us we are fat, and we need to buy the latest and greatest thing that’s going to help us loss weight. Then we see celebrities that we want to look like, so more people can notice how attractive we can be. Not knowing if we go back to our old habits and back to the couch, we tent to put the weight back by being to comfortable.
When did it become the thing to look perfect? When did it become a mission to look like a model, actor, or a major entertainer? Now a days the men have just as pressured of being attractive as women. They have to look a certain way plus men have to have “Swag” now!! I know it’s not like that with everyone, but the majority out there is You Have To Look Flawless.
For years I had stopped working out and sat doing nothing. Now, I attend Zumba classes and it’s pretty fun. Then I kept looking at myself thinking. Why aren’t I’m losing weight? At first I told myself and others that I just wanted to tone and tighten up. Later, I became frustrated about not losing weight fast enough. Then I realized if I stop thinking about and stop worrying I’ll get to a place where I lose an inch or two. Like I said we need to stop focusing on being so called fat, and starting focusing on health.
I’ve been in the Modeling and Entertainment industry all my life. So I know all about the I need to be perfect or the need to look better than a other individual. The Compare and Compete! Maybe we shouldn't try to strive to look perfect, because no one is perfect. We should strive to be better and healthier. We shouldn't workout to be vain or make others resentful, or jealous. We should strive to be health and happy. You shouldn't have to rely on diets and other stuff to make you loss weight faster, because you can quickly gain it right back. Exercise, Eat Right, and Enjoy life should be the way to enjoy your life.
Why do we feel the need to work out? Maybe it’s because of the media that tells us we are fat, and we need to buy the latest and greatest thing that’s going to help us loss weight. Then we see celebrities that we want to look like, so more people can notice how attractive we can be. Not knowing if we go back to our old habits and back to the couch, we tent to put the weight back by being to comfortable.
When did it become the thing to look perfect? When did it become a mission to look like a model, actor, or a major entertainer? Now a days the men have just as pressured of being attractive as women. They have to look a certain way plus men have to have “Swag” now!! I know it’s not like that with everyone, but the majority out there is You Have To Look Flawless.
For years I had stopped working out and sat doing nothing. Now, I attend Zumba classes and it’s pretty fun. Then I kept looking at myself thinking. Why aren’t I’m losing weight? At first I told myself and others that I just wanted to tone and tighten up. Later, I became frustrated about not losing weight fast enough. Then I realized if I stop thinking about and stop worrying I’ll get to a place where I lose an inch or two. Like I said we need to stop focusing on being so called fat, and starting focusing on health.
I’ve been in the Modeling and Entertainment industry all my life. So I know all about the I need to be perfect or the need to look better than a other individual. The Compare and Compete! Maybe we shouldn't try to strive to look perfect, because no one is perfect. We should strive to be better and healthier. We shouldn't workout to be vain or make others resentful, or jealous. We should strive to be health and happy. You shouldn't have to rely on diets and other stuff to make you loss weight faster, because you can quickly gain it right back. Exercise, Eat Right, and Enjoy life should be the way to enjoy your life.
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