2011

Christmas is now over and New Years is approaching. I know that 2011 will have some new additions to my life like a nephew and a brother-in-law. What will 2011 have in store for me personally? 2010 has been a blessed year for me and my family and I know 2010 is not over just yet and I'm open for more in the last week of 2010. What will 2011 have in store for me? What will I allow to happen in 2011?

The even bigger question is What does 2011 have in store for you? What do you expect in 2011? What will You allow to happen in 2011?

We usually allow ourselves to make up New Years Resolutions that we never stick too, or we never even do! We let certain things get in the way of us being the better self that we need to be.

Instead of making a New Years Resolution, let's make a New Year's Decision!!!!! Let's decide to be better, healthier, more wise, more confident, and more in tune with God.

Let's not allow our pass, offenses, regrets, and other weights in our lives control us. Let's make a decision in being Happy in 2011!!!!!!

We need to expect great things to happen in not just 2011 but period!

Let's Be Drama Free!!!! Let's Be Happy With Ourselves!!! Make a decision !!!!

2011 is the year for Great Expectations and Wonderful Things!!!!!


The Choice Is Your's!!!!!!!

Invisible!!!!

Have you ever felt invisible? Have you ever felt like no one was listening to you, or no one cared if you were even in the room? No matter how good you look or How good you are at something it seems like it's never good enough?

I know I have. I can't even tell how long I've been feeling like this. It's been like forever. I remember when I was known for my own accomplishments but now it's seems like that I'm known as my mom's child or my sister's sister. People never take the time to know me. I always get interrupted when I speak or get a look that I don't know what I'm talking about or When I try to contact certain individuals on a social network site, they never get back with me. When they want a particular thing, you will definitely hear from them. I try not to get offended but sometimes it can be irritating. I always see certain individuals get all the love support from their peeps. It's like wow, What can I do to get that?


I was always scared to go to some extreme measures to get attention but I have thought about it. I know there have gone to some inappropriate measures to get attention. I've done some shady stuff that I'm not at all proud of, but Thank The Lord For His Mercy!!! Being Sneaky was a certain thing I knew how to do. I know how to be sneaky, cause no one was never to concerned. Tye Tribett's "Prodigal Son" : I thought do what you feel like doing, no way cares anyway. Maybe then someone will notice you.
I felt that, I felt like no one cares.

My Dad and Mom is always telling me what I need to do. I don't do nothing right? Maybe I shouldn't even be here. Maybe I should end my life or something, but If I die who would miss me? I felt that way.

Then God reminded me that He's still trying to get my attention. He want me to not feel invisible, but to stop treating Him like He's invisible, or to only want Him when He needs something. I could have slapped myself.

I was so busy trying to want people to like me and to notice me, that I never notice the one that wants to know me for me. I don't have to break my back trying to please Him, but with people especially loved ones? You better believe it.

He's the one who can help me, while other's are good to hurt me. Psalms 146:3-4

Though I have to learn to forgive other's as well as learn How to not be so offencive. Still in training for that. No one is perfect, I'm still learning and growing. I just wanted to let you know if you like invisible, you are not alone. I just want you to know to rely on God, no matter what.

Distractions!!!

There can be a lot of things that can throw you off. You're focus is not where it needs to be and that can either get you frustrated and concerned or not caring at all. Sometimes people use a lot of vices to get there mind off there troubles. There are people that use vices to take there mind off of things that they need to focus on. Whether if it's on purpose or not. They are called Distractions.

Distractions comes in all shapes and sizes. All colors, and so what you so desire. Whether it's a person, place or thing. It can keep you from your stay focus, doing important things, and they can get you into some major trouble if you allow them too.

It always sneaks up on you, whether you least expect it. Distractions start out great, somethings nice and innocent. Then can turn into something else. If you're not careful it can let to something like "Idol Worship". Really?

Idol worship is something you cherish more than God or before important things in life. So a person, a car, money, and other things can be a form of worship. To some people that's not a bad thing.

Distractions can definitely can be an addiction!!! You can going a far as to losing your house, family, and possible you're life other certain distractions. You can let certain things and people take over your life. Actually nothing should ever take over your life but God!!! Maybe your Husband or Wife!!

Not a Girlfriend nor Boyfriend!!! Live the life the that God intended for you to live. Not for certain individuals. It's never consistent with people. To many opinions and very little time to consume them.

It's okay the have fun and enjoy life, but there's a time for everything. Stay focus and keep a balance to what you need to do in order to succeed and also where you need to be in your life.

The Social Networks!

Social Networks are a extremely major thing of the Web World these days. It seems like everyone is on Facebook, Twitter, Myspace, etc. There are some advantages to the web sites. You can network, connect with old friends, check certain people out. lol There are a lot of interesting things that can connect to these web sites. Communication use to be the key of good relationships. right? You don't have to talk to people on the phone anymore. You can go on their page to see what's going on with them now or check out there status.

There are scientific facts that the more you are on a social network the more neglected you feel, your self-esteem becomes lower. Actually, I can easily related to that. There have been times I found out that some people that I know have went to certain events I didn't know about. Sometimes the 100's or 1000's of people that are your friends are people that you've met once, or that you don't know at all but you two know the same people.

It just shows that you know a lot of people, Are they really your friend's? 60% percent of those people I don't even have their numbers. The people who contact you are the one you really don't care to hear from most of the time. Or maybe not!

Stuff becomes unpersonable sometimes. You find find out somebody dies, in the hospital, or something else happens before someone calls you, or notifies you at all. You would think phone lines would be less expensive, but all smartphones )with everyone has) has applications now, you have to pay that $30 or more every month anyway. So not so cheap anyway.

Then you find your ex-boyfriend who's married now with two kids, that avoids you or what you and him to reconnect. Huh? The high school folks that talked about you. That is all of a sudden cool with you or you find out that they are doing much better than you or worse. Wow!!!!

You can be bitter with that stuff even though it's easy to be. Like I said there are Advantages and Disadvantages to everything nothing is perfect. You do have to be careful, about some things, such as these kind of sites. They weren't created for you to be unhappy or bitter. They were created for fun, happy, times. LOL! We have to understand what's real and what's not real. It's ok to pick up the phone to call people or go back to e-mails. I'm sick of spam, people.

We have to be in tune with yourselves as people. Hugs and Kisses!! An average people need to be touched at least 5 times (especially woman)!! Talk to people who you care about. Maybe tell them that you love them in person would be nice!!!!! :)

Romance? Really?

Today has been a TV Movie day. I've seen some Romantic Movies. I was wondering is there such thing as a Real Romance out there like the ones in Hollywood Movies. I have heard some great stories about Romance in Marriages, Engagements, and a couple of relationships.

I starting to see that this Romantic thing is not really common. I know How hard relationships can be, they can be difficult and nerve wrecking. I have heard from my Mom that in Relationships that someone loves the other person more, that relationships no one loves each other equally! Wow! I can see that but I'm still skeptical to whether that is true or not.

I've been single for a long time now. In and out of relationships. I thought we were equally in love but not necessarily. I don't know the answers to relationships, but I believe that it's probably the best way to know is the ask the Creator Of Love!!! God!!

I've messed up some relationships in my pass. It's funny how one of my Friends from Ministry School use to always say. "You're ether single for a season or you're single for a reason". I've learned and grown from it. Truthfully still am. I need there is a lot to learn about this relationship thing. What to do? What's right or wrong? (Or course use common sense as well), but you know these days common sense is not common. It's good to use advice from people who've had there and done it.

The big thing to know is what "Patience"!!!!! We don't want to hear that word but it's so needed for and relationship, not just romantic.

To the real romancers out there, keep romancing because it's appreciated. Other's get with the program.

Self-Control, Discipline, and Consistency Go Hand And Hand

It's been a roller coaster for me for the pass couple of weeks, emotionally!!! I've been reflecting about life and where it's leading too. I thank God for being in my life, but I realized that I need to finally own up to my mistakes and be responsible. Not just in a one area but in all areas on my life. We all have issues to own up to and to work on them as well. We really have to admit to ourselves, what are the problems and find a way to improve them.

It could be Weight Loss, Self-Esteem,and Other Issues that hold us back and stop the us from fulfilling our Purpose!!

A friend of mine and I were talking yesterday. I told her about a major issue that I had and she brought up the thing about have self-control and setting boundaries! I figured that was the case but It hit me. That it is so important to have Self-Control and Discipline in our lives. Disciplined people are the most successful people ever. Discipline and Self-Control shows up in every area in our lives.


Usually discipline people know how to stay focus, and have faster goal accomplishments. Which definitely links up to a Big Word- Consistency!!!!!! Consistency,Discipline, and Self-Control go hand and hand. We have to be consistent in order to have discipline!!

I know how hard it is to stay connected with all three. No one wants to be disciple, we all want it easy. We have want are lazy days or have someone organize our live the way we want them to. Not So!!! If you want to loss weight you have to exercise. You have to discipline to eat healthy. Keep doing it!!!

We need to set boundaries for ourselves, I know it's hard to do, and don't even want to do it neither do I. Sometimes you just have to say "NO". Usually I don't want to say no or have a actually limit yourself. You can do anytime and everything even as an adult.

It's funny when as a kid you can't wait to be a Grown Up so you can do whatever you want!!! Even as a teenage, you have to be grown so you don't have to answer to anyone. Peer Pressure pushes through and you alway had a choice to make. Me personally I thought peer pressure was only when you are a teenage. It's even worse when you are and adult. It can give you an excuse to be undisciplined. You can change that.

There is a choice to do and to don't! If you do make the wrong choice, get back in line. We've all made mistakes, and stopped having disciplined, self-control, and boundaries. You have a choice to start today. Make the decision to take One Step to do what you need to do. If you need help ask and Lord to help you. Ask your friends and family to encourage or agree with you in praying to do so.

It starts by one decision!!! Take that step and keep going. Be give up!!! Cause it's never over until you say IT'S OVER!!!!!

The Call!

Remember when you were a kid and someone would ask you what did you want to be when you grow up? You said something you were certain that you were going to be that.

Later on in life maybe after high school or college you decided to go another route?Then got confused, because certain circumstance and misfortunes got it the way of your hopes and dreams. Then you take a job that you can't stand, but it pays the bills, I have kids now, I need to pay the rent so I have to stick with this job that I can't stand.

Then you see someone on TV that is doing what you wanted to be or something that you know who became very successful at the accomplishment you wanted to achieve. You ended up discourage, upset, and frustrated. You think that it's to late you do it, now! It's Over!!!

We were all born for a purpose to do something for God!!! Whether it's singing, acting, dancing, business, teaching and other things. We are were called by God for something.

It's by hard work and determination how far you want to take it. Circumstances may set you back, but it can't stay there for long. There's a time and place for everything. Not everyone is suppose to be a rapper on TV. Or a singer, bouncin at the Grammy's!!

I know some of the most out cold singers here in Detroit that work hard, and show it every time at the Downtown Jazz Clubs or Churches!! One Monkey should stop any show!!!

If you really want to be successful in life you have practice your craft, work at it!! Also invest in yourself!! Put time and money in what you were called to do. If you don't have the time or money, ask God for it!

Don't just through in the towel because your expectations didn't came to pass the way you wanted them too or your circumstance seemed to be greater than the call on your life!

I'm here to tell you it's not!!! You pretty much know what your call or passion is. So get on it, because the world needs it!!

Women: Compare and Compete!!!

This is an issue that people keep talking about for decades now, people with in the Africa-American community. This issue has put a toll on most Black Women for as long as I can remember. It shouldn't be but it is, we all compare and compete with each other not just Black Women but Women in General. The Light vs. Dark Skin! The Black Woman vs. Other Race Women.

Insecurities shows up when you're not looking. Being with a different race is a great thing, but when a woman hear that the men she's are interested in is with another women that's another race or color than that's an issue. Then the competition and comparing shows up. I've been there, but that issue only hurts the person you least expected, Yourself!!! I had to realized that for myself and move on.

Your issues never hurt the other person as much as it does to you. No matter what you do to them. They will never hurt as much as you want them to. They Are Not You!!! So why bother? Why be selfish by making people hurt worse by talking about them or their relationships? You're not helping the situation you are only making it worse.

Women: There are other guys out there for you? You Just Need One!!!!!!!!

I know, I've been there, myself. Saying you want to show the world how Hot you are. You can get any man you choose. White, Black, whatever race!! Let a person like you for you. Not your dress size, or how you dress, how you wear your make-up! You can cake the make-up on but if you don't like what's under, you have a problem.

Some women boast on how independent they are and I don't need a man attitude. Why do you have that attitude? Why do you have that mindset? People have that mindset because they have been hurt along the way.

Who was that someone who wronged you, enough to be angry, bitter, and resentful? Why did you give them that ability to hurt you?

Are you holding on to a painful past? Are you not letting go and receiving to with God has for you?

There's always a reason why people are Angry, Bitter, and Resentful! There's are reason why people act and think the way they do.

Is it right? Of course not.

Two wrongs never made a right, you have to forgive and forget. I know it's easier said than done, but it's very possible!!!

Love yourself, first!! If you don't know how, then ask God to show you how. Like I said before take baby steps if you have to.

Also look in the mirror everyday, and tell yourself that You Are Beautiful!!! Say it, Believe It!!! Because You Are!!!!

Don't get caught up in the anger that still has a hold of you, check yourself! If you feel that you are about to put your mouth on a certain person that has a certain type that you don't understand. Leave It Alone!!!!!!! Why care? Move on! Smart People know that the stereotype is definitely not certain.

Live your life the way God wants you too! Without Bitterness, Anger, and Resentment!!!

The Pass Is Not Better Than You!!!

This week a friend of mine on posted a good point on Twitter. She tweeted something about how people wish "That Things Could Go Back To The Way They Were" she said it's not going to happen. Probably a while ago I would have been a little sad about that comment, but I fully agreed. I even responded "Things are suppose to be even BETTER than they were".

I'm the first person that loves to go back to memory lane. Reminisce about my life as a child form young adult. Even what had happened two weeks ago. Don't get me wrong it's good to remember but not good to dwell on the memory. That's how people stay bitter, angry, resentment, guilt, and regret. It's easy to go back and escape from the things that you're dealing with now as and adult. It's called growth.

Most people that I grew up with are married with kids now. Even Ex-boyfriends and Guys that I thought that I could spend the rest on my life with (Crushes). In High School I thought that most couples were going to marry each other, but married other folks instead, that were better than the people that they dated.

So folks just won't get rid of pass baggage that also created new baggage that collaborates into one big mess. Usually new baggage results to not dealing with pass issues. Even the good memories! You have to want better, newer, hotter things for yourself.

Don't you want better than the passed relationships, life, and others things you've done in the pass? I know I do!!! The 80's and 90's definitely had advantages and strong disadvantage as well as today but I show don't want to go back to that!! There's a reason why God wants time to go on, so we can go on and learn more, have more available to see, and to grow.

Learn from the pass and move on! Strive to be better than what you've done in the pass. Strive for new and greatest measures. If you think that things like music should be how it use to be, make it yourself if you're an artist or Support the one's that do, get them out there.

There are a lot a artist that is not getting the support that they need. The so called "Crap" that's on the radio is there for a reason. Other folks are supporting it. If you hate it so much than Take a stand!!!! Call the radio stations, I know that music has changed, but lets take the new beats and put it with an actual message. Teach the new generation how to give a message that make sense!!!

Let's stop complaining and leave it to where it's suppose to be.... In The Pass!! Let's Do Better! Not just for us for the folks the come!!!!

Pass Mistakes!!

I know that everyone makes mistakes and no one is perfect with decision making (especially these days). You think you know a person until you find out something that you disagree or don't approve of a certain individual that you have high expectations of.

Lately it's been like that in my life, excluding me. There's a lot of thing that I'm not proud about, but there are some things that I found out about people that I know and love that made me even rise my eyebrows a little or a lot. I definitely have no right to judge. Lord, knows that I have made some HUGE mistakes in my life. Even over and over again that I'm definitely not pride of.

It's hard sometimes to let pass mistakes go, but you can. If that individual let that mistake go. It best that we do the some. It's not smart stressing out over someone else's mistake. People know what the consequences of their actions but to get catch up in the moment of excitement, that they just don't care. I've done it. Lots of people that I know done the same thing.

Just pray for people, instead of talking about the individual, it's always a reason why people do what they do. Even if that person hurt you badly, betrayed trust. Cursing folks out will make you more angry and won't solve anything. Is a matter of fact will make you make angry, bitter, resentful and more disappointed.

Mom told me you will go though life with someone in your life that will disappoint you. It's what you do that will determine your level. Happy people choose to be happy, others choose whatever.

Don't judge others and say never. You might need that same people person in the long haul to help pull you out of something you never know. Be Forgiving!!!

If you've done someone wrong, repent! Understand what that person is going through.

God is all about forgiveness and repenting !!! If will make your life a lot easier!!!!

Change!!!!

Lately I've been in this mode for change. I've finally had to get is line for what God wanted instead of what I wanted. This week has been Convention Week at my Church, and it seems like every meeting that I went to, the Speaker was speaking to me through the Holy Ghost.

It showed me that I had to finally change my attitude, change my growth, and maturity. I appreciated the Speakers more because some of them went through the some thing as I am. I always wondered when I was going to have that major change in my life without putting the effort to change. I wanted for God to bless me in my Half Steppin!!!!

I wanted to learn how to change but I couldn't figure out to do it in my own way. I have to learn that I couldn't do it in my own way. I have to do it "God's Way" or just make the effort to do it.

Obedience can go a long way.

Now God's has shown me favor with people, job opportunities are showing up when I couldn't get one. God is restoring my purity, and my life. I know that my relationship with God can always be better than it is, but I know that I will always thank and praise Him for everything in my life!!!!

Picking Scabs! Leaving Scars! When To Heal?

When I was growing up and still to this day I always struggled with acne. Not a day went bye without having something on my face. I'm a picker with is not good. Even if I see a pimple, I will doing anything in my power to get rid of it. Now, I have a blackhead tool to get rid of it. It always leaves a nasty scab, I end up picking the scab which leads to a horrible scar that's almost impossible to get rid of.

I've also notice that not only that I would to that to my face but I would do that to my emotions, my pass relationships, and insecurities. I would always let jealousy set it, every time I see my ex-boyfriend's or someone I was dating would move on with someone else. I would end up comparing myself to that person.

Even when their relationship with over, I would still compare and felt like I had to compete with that woman. Letting my low self-esteem get lower, cause the women that I would compare myself to would be top notch. So I thought. My scabs emotionally would get worse emotionally. Looking for other things to make me happy food, guys, and other things. Not letting God be the source of my happiness. I thought that being in a relationship and focusing to be married would fill the void. Cause I would and still see married couples be so happy.

I realized you have to have not just a person in your life but the right person in your life. You can know that by praying and listening to God.

Scars, Scabs, and even Wounds can Heal!!!! You have to let it heal, first. Stop picking and it. Put a bandage over it by Guarding your Heart and Mind! Phil. 4:7 Also your scars need time to heal as they say Time Heals All Wounds. Move Forward !!!!!We should set goals for ourselves. We all have issues, scars and set backs, but if we move forward we a guaranteed a come back. Come back strong! We have to learn, correct, connect and move forward. Also find people to help you out. Connect with others to help you reach your goals. Positive folks that will help you get to where you're going.

Help Others who were in the same situation you were in it's Time Out to be selfish. We need to help each other and stop hating on each other.

Love Yourself and Let The Healing Begin!!!!

Beauty!

There are so many differences of what beauty is. It's different types of beauty in Race, Cultures, and in Time frames. I know beauty always changes year after year. Goes to show how times changes with beauty.

I remember 15 years ago in the "Black Community" if you wore any type of "Fake Hair" you would get talked about so bad. Now fake hair is almost a must in the "Black Community". Chris Rock let us know that "Fake Hair" is a multi-million dollar industry with African American Women in "Good Hair" as well as Caucasian women too keep a secret I guess. Make-Up is a must have for every woman (now a days).

If your not wearing any make-up now a days you get looks like (What is wrong with you?). Also The Weight Thing (first, you had to be curvy and now you have to be thin!!!!!!! Media did created a monster I believe. You have to look like Hollywood. Get the latest tips on Hair, Make-Up, and Fashion Magazines, TV Shows and Web Sites. 15 years ago I didn't know anything about "The Red Carpet" with all the Beautiful Hollywood people spend 100's of thousands of dollars to look how they look.

It seems like the Ideal Woman of today has to look Shiny and Glamorous, to be considered beautiful. Usually people have to see you before they hear you, especially Men. I thought that "Beauty Comes From The Inside" you would think that would be the case, but men and women look at the outside first. It's funny how I finally learned that after 29 years I've been on this earth.

I do wear make-up now but not all the time (with my skin I need too). Most of the time my hair is a Hot Mess! I always have issues with insecurities, but I have to be me and be confident in who I am. (Especially in Christ)

Confidence is the main key of been Beautiful. Knowing how to love yourself, even with your flaws. No one knows what is wrong with you unless you point it out. Be You!!!! Uniqueness and Originality comes a long way. It's okay to admire people but don't kill yourself trying to be just like the person you admire. Always put your own twist to styles but don't be crazy. There is such thing as over the top!!!! :-)