Yesterday I've notice something on Facebook. I've notice that most of my single friends, including me don't have a relationship status. I guess when people are single they don't want to be bothered by other desperate and crazy singles from the opposite sex or they're dating someone but it's not exclusive yet so they'll just leave in blank because any day now they will put "in a relationship" on their relationship status. Maybe they've been single for so long that their friends and family are starting to worry about them ever getting married.
Both of my sisters are married, which is wonderful. I have to say at my younger sister's wedding, nothing insulted me be the singled one saying: When is it going to be your turn? They just said You're Next, right? Actually, that kind of meant the same thing, but I knew that it was just their way of saying, We know you can get a man, but you're not getting any younger, so hurry up! LOL
Most single women I know, including me has have the " Always a Bridesmaid never a Bride" Syndrome. There had been times were I felt like Jane Nichols in The movie "27 Dresses" Well, I never had that many dresses! I knew 5 for me was enough, I think it was 5. Anyway, of course it's not good to have that. You don't want to start getting desperate, and date Tom, Joe, and Scary!!!! Why do we pressure ourselves to have our mate at a certain age? Well, back in the day we were told to fell in love, get married and have children. When a certain age comes, we (especially women) panic and date outside our potential. In some reasons to prove to others that you can have a man or woman if you want, and right now you just chose to be single.
Of course Marriage is a Godly thing! Cut covenant with the certain individual for life!!!! Sometimes you wonder "When Will It Be My Time?" Aren't we suppose to trust God? Or Course!!!! Some people, even I have "so called" tried to help God out a little by picking one out for us. God never wants or needs our help for mate hunts, because he know want you already desire. You can pray for the arrival of your mate, but quit rushing God and yourself!!!It's the time to enjoy life. Do cool stuff!!! Learn and prepare. Make changes to grow more in yourself and in God as well.
Man, I have a whole lot of growing to do. I hope not too much though, only time and God will tell. I know their are certain reasons why we do stuff on Social-Media Networks now a days. I just wanted to let you know that it's okay to have the word "Single" in your relationship status. It doesn't mean I will have mine like that!! LOL
But Hey Enjoy Your Single Life!!!!!!
Friday, September 9, 2011
Friday, August 26, 2011
People's Opinions!!!!
At this day and age people are very quick to state their opinion, even when they are not asked to. From the time when kids can say their first word to old people on their death beds. People always want you to know what they are absolutely thinking about you and your situation. Like, comments on your social media status. They want you to know that you shouldn't be feeling that way, that you need to be more in tune with reality or God, nothing is sacred and it's never consistent, something's all your business is out on the street.
What ever happen to pulling people to the side, or emailing a suggestion. Not everyone believes in the same situations even if they are the same origin, or faith. People are different and unique in every way. People should bring back that special word that Ms. Aretha Franklin sings R-E-S-P-E-C-T!!!! I barely see that now a days. All I'm saying is let's respect one another, don't be so quick to voice your opinion, especially when you don't know the whole story about things. Let other adults make their own decisions about their lives!!!! Unless they ask you your opinion. If they didn't then let them be!!!!
What ever happen to pulling people to the side, or emailing a suggestion. Not everyone believes in the same situations even if they are the same origin, or faith. People are different and unique in every way. People should bring back that special word that Ms. Aretha Franklin sings R-E-S-P-E-C-T!!!! I barely see that now a days. All I'm saying is let's respect one another, don't be so quick to voice your opinion, especially when you don't know the whole story about things. Let other adults make their own decisions about their lives!!!! Unless they ask you your opinion. If they didn't then let them be!!!!
Thursday, July 21, 2011
Pop Culture and Media!!!!
I remember when I was little. I would watch a lot of T.V sitcom shows like The Cosby Show, Full House, A Different World and many others. I would remember towards the end of these shows there was always a moral to each episode. You would always learn lessons to certain things, also when I was young there were real role models. Not just in the Entertainment industry but in the out side as well. People in our communities and people that should up for what was right.
People had a certain integrity, a certain level of respect for others. People honored and respected others talents. Entertainers cared about the community, their surrounding and spoke the truth about them, in song, movies and T.V. Their focus was not on Money, Sex, and partying your life away. Not fist fighting on T.V shows, or cursing every other word. Being confident in ignorance.
Entertainment was still entertaining, but it still made you think about consequences to your actions, this is what will happened to you if you decide to do certain things. Education!
Now Gossip Shows are #1 factor in this country. Not what's going on in the world. Why do I have to know about certain celebrities businesses? What about bring education and morals back to certain media that we know that the younger generation is watching?
Music should be more influential on educating people on more then just sex, money, and getting high!!!!
People life is more than what is on T.v or the Internet. Be an role model to the future in front or you (kids)!!! Show them that you can be more than pretty face, big butt, wacko social misfit that will do anything to be on T.V type person.
People had a certain integrity, a certain level of respect for others. People honored and respected others talents. Entertainers cared about the community, their surrounding and spoke the truth about them, in song, movies and T.V. Their focus was not on Money, Sex, and partying your life away. Not fist fighting on T.V shows, or cursing every other word. Being confident in ignorance.
Entertainment was still entertaining, but it still made you think about consequences to your actions, this is what will happened to you if you decide to do certain things. Education!
Now Gossip Shows are #1 factor in this country. Not what's going on in the world. Why do I have to know about certain celebrities businesses? What about bring education and morals back to certain media that we know that the younger generation is watching?
Music should be more influential on educating people on more then just sex, money, and getting high!!!!
People life is more than what is on T.v or the Internet. Be an role model to the future in front or you (kids)!!! Show them that you can be more than pretty face, big butt, wacko social misfit that will do anything to be on T.V type person.
Tuesday, February 15, 2011
What's Your Type?
In my days of working for my Mom. I've heard young ladies talk about what kind of ideal man that they wanted. Usually it would be the tall, light eyes, (black girls say) light skin with "Good Hair", a chiseled body,and nice smile. Personality maybe funny and a man that believes in God. I remember when I was a certain age , there were certain type of guys that I liked, and it usually was the biracial "you don't know what they are" type.
As I realized as time when on that I was putting to much emphasis on what a man looks like then I did on personality and integrity, which is never good. If that man is evil, contentious, and is not appreciating you. Then you find out how ugly he can be right away. Fine men and woman are even better looking with they have a heart.
Women shouldn't be interest in just the physical, because when that relationship is based on the physical, you both will have emotional issues. I've heard so much times that they wanted to have babies with a certain person or race is that they van have "pretty babies" or a certain looking baby. Usually that person is a single parent and later on regrets or resents that other person.
People we need to get smart on who we want to be in our lives. Ladies, I know about the good looking charming guy that sweeps you off your feet at first. Same with men! Woman can impress you guys as well, a woman can be beautiful, sweet, strong, loving, and can make a man feel like a King!!!! When you get to know them it's a different story. Watch and Observe when you are dating that individual (Singles) Do not rush into anything, take is slow.
Remember you don't have to have a "must have" of your type to be happy. Of course God will give you the desires of your heart. The mental, emotional, and spiritual out last than just the physical. Find a person that you can laugh with, the person that get's you, the person that knows your flaws and that can work with or around them. In another case pray that they will go away.
Usually people that have that "pretty baby" mind set, it usually they don't like they look themselves. You are a wonderful, beautiful, handsome and brilliant human being. Do let other's say that you aren't all that cause you are. Learn to love yourselves for who you are. You're some wonderful that God said he only need one of you, cause the world ain't ready for another one. LOL! It's True!!!! Your baby will be beautiful no matter what!
As I realized as time when on that I was putting to much emphasis on what a man looks like then I did on personality and integrity, which is never good. If that man is evil, contentious, and is not appreciating you. Then you find out how ugly he can be right away. Fine men and woman are even better looking with they have a heart.
Women shouldn't be interest in just the physical, because when that relationship is based on the physical, you both will have emotional issues. I've heard so much times that they wanted to have babies with a certain person or race is that they van have "pretty babies" or a certain looking baby. Usually that person is a single parent and later on regrets or resents that other person.
People we need to get smart on who we want to be in our lives. Ladies, I know about the good looking charming guy that sweeps you off your feet at first. Same with men! Woman can impress you guys as well, a woman can be beautiful, sweet, strong, loving, and can make a man feel like a King!!!! When you get to know them it's a different story. Watch and Observe when you are dating that individual (Singles) Do not rush into anything, take is slow.
Remember you don't have to have a "must have" of your type to be happy. Of course God will give you the desires of your heart. The mental, emotional, and spiritual out last than just the physical. Find a person that you can laugh with, the person that get's you, the person that knows your flaws and that can work with or around them. In another case pray that they will go away.
Usually people that have that "pretty baby" mind set, it usually they don't like they look themselves. You are a wonderful, beautiful, handsome and brilliant human being. Do let other's say that you aren't all that cause you are. Learn to love yourselves for who you are. You're some wonderful that God said he only need one of you, cause the world ain't ready for another one. LOL! It's True!!!! Your baby will be beautiful no matter what!
Wednesday, February 2, 2011
Fitness: Health? or Vain?
Why do people work out? Some say they work out for health reasons. Some say they work out so they can stay or get to a certain size. Woman say they want to look great in a skimpy swimsuit, to attract men and have their friends jealous because they have all the attention.
Why do we feel the need to work out? Maybe it’s because of the media that tells us we are fat, and we need to buy the latest and greatest thing that’s going to help us loss weight. Then we see celebrities that we want to look like, so more people can notice how attractive we can be. Not knowing if we go back to our old habits and back to the couch, we tent to put the weight back by being to comfortable.
When did it become the thing to look perfect? When did it become a mission to look like a model, actor, or a major entertainer? Now a days the men have just as pressured of being attractive as women. They have to look a certain way plus men have to have “Swag” now!! I know it’s not like that with everyone, but the majority out there is You Have To Look Flawless.
For years I had stopped working out and sat doing nothing. Now, I attend Zumba classes and it’s pretty fun. Then I kept looking at myself thinking. Why aren’t I’m losing weight? At first I told myself and others that I just wanted to tone and tighten up. Later, I became frustrated about not losing weight fast enough. Then I realized if I stop thinking about and stop worrying I’ll get to a place where I lose an inch or two. Like I said we need to stop focusing on being so called fat, and starting focusing on health.
I’ve been in the Modeling and Entertainment industry all my life. So I know all about the I need to be perfect or the need to look better than a other individual. The Compare and Compete! Maybe we shouldn't try to strive to look perfect, because no one is perfect. We should strive to be better and healthier. We shouldn't workout to be vain or make others resentful, or jealous. We should strive to be health and happy. You shouldn't have to rely on diets and other stuff to make you loss weight faster, because you can quickly gain it right back. Exercise, Eat Right, and Enjoy life should be the way to enjoy your life.
Why do we feel the need to work out? Maybe it’s because of the media that tells us we are fat, and we need to buy the latest and greatest thing that’s going to help us loss weight. Then we see celebrities that we want to look like, so more people can notice how attractive we can be. Not knowing if we go back to our old habits and back to the couch, we tent to put the weight back by being to comfortable.
When did it become the thing to look perfect? When did it become a mission to look like a model, actor, or a major entertainer? Now a days the men have just as pressured of being attractive as women. They have to look a certain way plus men have to have “Swag” now!! I know it’s not like that with everyone, but the majority out there is You Have To Look Flawless.
For years I had stopped working out and sat doing nothing. Now, I attend Zumba classes and it’s pretty fun. Then I kept looking at myself thinking. Why aren’t I’m losing weight? At first I told myself and others that I just wanted to tone and tighten up. Later, I became frustrated about not losing weight fast enough. Then I realized if I stop thinking about and stop worrying I’ll get to a place where I lose an inch or two. Like I said we need to stop focusing on being so called fat, and starting focusing on health.
I’ve been in the Modeling and Entertainment industry all my life. So I know all about the I need to be perfect or the need to look better than a other individual. The Compare and Compete! Maybe we shouldn't try to strive to look perfect, because no one is perfect. We should strive to be better and healthier. We shouldn't workout to be vain or make others resentful, or jealous. We should strive to be health and happy. You shouldn't have to rely on diets and other stuff to make you loss weight faster, because you can quickly gain it right back. Exercise, Eat Right, and Enjoy life should be the way to enjoy your life.
Wednesday, January 19, 2011
Confidence
Well, Happy New Everyone!!! Hope all is well with you and yours these days. I would like to talk about a topic that concerns a lot of people especially woman.
Confidence!!!! Confidence can be truthful, Confidence can be powerful, Confidence can be very attractive, Confidence can be positive and too much can be negative!!! Confidence either you have to much or you don't have enough. Confidence is base on self-esteem.
People that are confident in themselves also have good self-esteem. They are confidence in themselves because they know how to be themselves,but I know you're asking "What about the one's that are themselves but don't have any confidence in themselves?"
There are a lot of people that are intimidated by others which causes their confidence to sink down low. I have been in a lot of settings where I myself was intimidated by others and even with my own peers. I always didn't feel confidence especially around certain people.
Intimidation can get to you if you let it. It's all base on FEAR- False, Evidence, Appearing, Real. You can always assume that certain others are better, prettier, smarter, stronger, more disciplined, and of course more confident, but are they?
The reason why you think they are what they are is because You Think so. If you think that you are as good as any famous person or The so called "Popular One". Then guess what?? You are! Also what's even better is you can rely on God for your confidence and not people.
God is not conditional like people are, people can be discouraging and "SuperHaters"!!!
GOD IS NOT A HATER!!! GOD IS LOVE!!!
You can be encourage in God! You are Fabulous, You can be yourself around others without being intimidated and fearful.
Stick with Positive People! Stick with People that will encourage you to succeed and be fabulous!
Because YOU ARE!!!!
Confidence!!!! Confidence can be truthful, Confidence can be powerful, Confidence can be very attractive, Confidence can be positive and too much can be negative!!! Confidence either you have to much or you don't have enough. Confidence is base on self-esteem.
People that are confident in themselves also have good self-esteem. They are confidence in themselves because they know how to be themselves,but I know you're asking "What about the one's that are themselves but don't have any confidence in themselves?"
There are a lot of people that are intimidated by others which causes their confidence to sink down low. I have been in a lot of settings where I myself was intimidated by others and even with my own peers. I always didn't feel confidence especially around certain people.
Intimidation can get to you if you let it. It's all base on FEAR- False, Evidence, Appearing, Real. You can always assume that certain others are better, prettier, smarter, stronger, more disciplined, and of course more confident, but are they?
The reason why you think they are what they are is because You Think so. If you think that you are as good as any famous person or The so called "Popular One". Then guess what?? You are! Also what's even better is you can rely on God for your confidence and not people.
God is not conditional like people are, people can be discouraging and "SuperHaters"!!!
GOD IS NOT A HATER!!! GOD IS LOVE!!!
You can be encourage in God! You are Fabulous, You can be yourself around others without being intimidated and fearful.
Stick with Positive People! Stick with People that will encourage you to succeed and be fabulous!
Because YOU ARE!!!!
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