Self-Control, Discipline, and Consistency Go Hand And Hand

It's been a roller coaster for me for the pass couple of weeks, emotionally!!! I've been reflecting about life and where it's leading too. I thank God for being in my life, but I realized that I need to finally own up to my mistakes and be responsible. Not just in a one area but in all areas on my life. We all have issues to own up to and to work on them as well. We really have to admit to ourselves, what are the problems and find a way to improve them.

It could be Weight Loss, Self-Esteem,and Other Issues that hold us back and stop the us from fulfilling our Purpose!!

A friend of mine and I were talking yesterday. I told her about a major issue that I had and she brought up the thing about have self-control and setting boundaries! I figured that was the case but It hit me. That it is so important to have Self-Control and Discipline in our lives. Disciplined people are the most successful people ever. Discipline and Self-Control shows up in every area in our lives.


Usually discipline people know how to stay focus, and have faster goal accomplishments. Which definitely links up to a Big Word- Consistency!!!!!! Consistency,Discipline, and Self-Control go hand and hand. We have to be consistent in order to have discipline!!

I know how hard it is to stay connected with all three. No one wants to be disciple, we all want it easy. We have want are lazy days or have someone organize our live the way we want them to. Not So!!! If you want to loss weight you have to exercise. You have to discipline to eat healthy. Keep doing it!!!

We need to set boundaries for ourselves, I know it's hard to do, and don't even want to do it neither do I. Sometimes you just have to say "NO". Usually I don't want to say no or have a actually limit yourself. You can do anytime and everything even as an adult.

It's funny when as a kid you can't wait to be a Grown Up so you can do whatever you want!!! Even as a teenage, you have to be grown so you don't have to answer to anyone. Peer Pressure pushes through and you alway had a choice to make. Me personally I thought peer pressure was only when you are a teenage. It's even worse when you are and adult. It can give you an excuse to be undisciplined. You can change that.

There is a choice to do and to don't! If you do make the wrong choice, get back in line. We've all made mistakes, and stopped having disciplined, self-control, and boundaries. You have a choice to start today. Make the decision to take One Step to do what you need to do. If you need help ask and Lord to help you. Ask your friends and family to encourage or agree with you in praying to do so.

It starts by one decision!!! Take that step and keep going. Be give up!!! Cause it's never over until you say IT'S OVER!!!!!

The Call!

Remember when you were a kid and someone would ask you what did you want to be when you grow up? You said something you were certain that you were going to be that.

Later on in life maybe after high school or college you decided to go another route?Then got confused, because certain circumstance and misfortunes got it the way of your hopes and dreams. Then you take a job that you can't stand, but it pays the bills, I have kids now, I need to pay the rent so I have to stick with this job that I can't stand.

Then you see someone on TV that is doing what you wanted to be or something that you know who became very successful at the accomplishment you wanted to achieve. You ended up discourage, upset, and frustrated. You think that it's to late you do it, now! It's Over!!!

We were all born for a purpose to do something for God!!! Whether it's singing, acting, dancing, business, teaching and other things. We are were called by God for something.

It's by hard work and determination how far you want to take it. Circumstances may set you back, but it can't stay there for long. There's a time and place for everything. Not everyone is suppose to be a rapper on TV. Or a singer, bouncin at the Grammy's!!

I know some of the most out cold singers here in Detroit that work hard, and show it every time at the Downtown Jazz Clubs or Churches!! One Monkey should stop any show!!!

If you really want to be successful in life you have practice your craft, work at it!! Also invest in yourself!! Put time and money in what you were called to do. If you don't have the time or money, ask God for it!

Don't just through in the towel because your expectations didn't came to pass the way you wanted them too or your circumstance seemed to be greater than the call on your life!

I'm here to tell you it's not!!! You pretty much know what your call or passion is. So get on it, because the world needs it!!

Women: Compare and Compete!!!

This is an issue that people keep talking about for decades now, people with in the Africa-American community. This issue has put a toll on most Black Women for as long as I can remember. It shouldn't be but it is, we all compare and compete with each other not just Black Women but Women in General. The Light vs. Dark Skin! The Black Woman vs. Other Race Women.

Insecurities shows up when you're not looking. Being with a different race is a great thing, but when a woman hear that the men she's are interested in is with another women that's another race or color than that's an issue. Then the competition and comparing shows up. I've been there, but that issue only hurts the person you least expected, Yourself!!! I had to realized that for myself and move on.

Your issues never hurt the other person as much as it does to you. No matter what you do to them. They will never hurt as much as you want them to. They Are Not You!!! So why bother? Why be selfish by making people hurt worse by talking about them or their relationships? You're not helping the situation you are only making it worse.

Women: There are other guys out there for you? You Just Need One!!!!!!!!

I know, I've been there, myself. Saying you want to show the world how Hot you are. You can get any man you choose. White, Black, whatever race!! Let a person like you for you. Not your dress size, or how you dress, how you wear your make-up! You can cake the make-up on but if you don't like what's under, you have a problem.

Some women boast on how independent they are and I don't need a man attitude. Why do you have that attitude? Why do you have that mindset? People have that mindset because they have been hurt along the way.

Who was that someone who wronged you, enough to be angry, bitter, and resentful? Why did you give them that ability to hurt you?

Are you holding on to a painful past? Are you not letting go and receiving to with God has for you?

There's always a reason why people are Angry, Bitter, and Resentful! There's are reason why people act and think the way they do.

Is it right? Of course not.

Two wrongs never made a right, you have to forgive and forget. I know it's easier said than done, but it's very possible!!!

Love yourself, first!! If you don't know how, then ask God to show you how. Like I said before take baby steps if you have to.

Also look in the mirror everyday, and tell yourself that You Are Beautiful!!! Say it, Believe It!!! Because You Are!!!!

Don't get caught up in the anger that still has a hold of you, check yourself! If you feel that you are about to put your mouth on a certain person that has a certain type that you don't understand. Leave It Alone!!!!!!! Why care? Move on! Smart People know that the stereotype is definitely not certain.

Live your life the way God wants you too! Without Bitterness, Anger, and Resentment!!!