Women: Compare and Compete!!!

This is an issue that people keep talking about for decades now, people with in the Africa-American community. This issue has put a toll on most Black Women for as long as I can remember. It shouldn't be but it is, we all compare and compete with each other not just Black Women but Women in General. The Light vs. Dark Skin! The Black Woman vs. Other Race Women.

Insecurities shows up when you're not looking. Being with a different race is a great thing, but when a woman hear that the men she's are interested in is with another women that's another race or color than that's an issue. Then the competition and comparing shows up. I've been there, but that issue only hurts the person you least expected, Yourself!!! I had to realized that for myself and move on.

Your issues never hurt the other person as much as it does to you. No matter what you do to them. They will never hurt as much as you want them to. They Are Not You!!! So why bother? Why be selfish by making people hurt worse by talking about them or their relationships? You're not helping the situation you are only making it worse.

Women: There are other guys out there for you? You Just Need One!!!!!!!!

I know, I've been there, myself. Saying you want to show the world how Hot you are. You can get any man you choose. White, Black, whatever race!! Let a person like you for you. Not your dress size, or how you dress, how you wear your make-up! You can cake the make-up on but if you don't like what's under, you have a problem.

Some women boast on how independent they are and I don't need a man attitude. Why do you have that attitude? Why do you have that mindset? People have that mindset because they have been hurt along the way.

Who was that someone who wronged you, enough to be angry, bitter, and resentful? Why did you give them that ability to hurt you?

Are you holding on to a painful past? Are you not letting go and receiving to with God has for you?

There's always a reason why people are Angry, Bitter, and Resentful! There's are reason why people act and think the way they do.

Is it right? Of course not.

Two wrongs never made a right, you have to forgive and forget. I know it's easier said than done, but it's very possible!!!

Love yourself, first!! If you don't know how, then ask God to show you how. Like I said before take baby steps if you have to.

Also look in the mirror everyday, and tell yourself that You Are Beautiful!!! Say it, Believe It!!! Because You Are!!!!

Don't get caught up in the anger that still has a hold of you, check yourself! If you feel that you are about to put your mouth on a certain person that has a certain type that you don't understand. Leave It Alone!!!!!!! Why care? Move on! Smart People know that the stereotype is definitely not certain.

Live your life the way God wants you too! Without Bitterness, Anger, and Resentment!!!